The Healing Canvas: The Experience of Halloween for Those Who Mask and Hold Trauma
As the nights grow longer and the air turns crisp, Halloween brings its familiar sights and sounds—jack-o’-lanterns, costumes, haunted houses, and the thrill of fear. For many, this is a time of celebration, creativity, and fun. However, for others, Halloween can be a challenging time, stirring emotions rooted in trauma, anxiety, and fear. At Artist Eye Counseling, we recognize that the layers of this season can affect people in diverse and complex ways, especially those who have experienced trauma or who frequently mask their true selves to navigate the world.
Fear and Trauma: Why Halloween Can Be Overwhelming
Halloween is built on themes of fear—ghosts, monsters, and all things eerie. While for some, this is playful, for others, these symbols of fear can be unsettling. People with trauma, especially those who have survived frightening experiences, may find that Halloween amplifies their anxiety. The imagery and sounds—screams, dark corners, and the unexpected—can serve as triggers, bringing past fears into the present moment.
People who experience PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) might find themselves struggling more at this time of year. The darkened streets, jump scares, and loud noises could lead to flashbacks or heightened stress. Traumatic memories can resurface when faced with reminders of past terror, leaving individuals feeling unsafe, even in spaces that are meant for fun. This can be particularly difficult because Halloween is a social event, and the pressure to participate may clash with the need for self-protection.
Masking and Halloween: The Intersection of Identity and Disguise
For people who often “mask” in daily life—those who hide their true selves to fit in—Halloween can present unique challenges. Masking is common among neurodivergent individuals, including people with autism and ADHD. It involves suppressing natural behaviors or emotions to appear more socially acceptable. While Halloween might seem like the perfect opportunity to wear a mask in a literal sense, the act of pretending can feel exhausting for those who do it year-round.
Halloween's focus on disguises and role-playing can evoke mixed emotions. For some, it offers a chance to explore different aspects of their identity in a safe space. For others, it may feel like yet another layer of performance on top of the daily mask they already wear. The pressure to conform to social expectations—even under the guise of “having fun”—can deepen feelings of isolation for people who feel they are already pretending just to get through the day.
Why Some People Choose Not to Participate
It’s important to recognize that not everyone enjoys or even feels comfortable celebrating Halloween. Beyond personal taste, cultural or religious reasons might explain why some opt out. For others, the sensory overload of loud music, flashing lights, and chaotic gatherings can be unbearable.
People with social anxiety or sensory sensitivities may struggle with Halloween parties or crowded trick-or-treat streets. In some cases, individuals with trauma or neurodivergence may feel that Halloween emphasizes feelings of not fitting in. It’s not just about the external chaos; it’s about the emotional toll of participating in something that feels overwhelming or out of control.
Healing Pathways: Navigating Halloween with Compassion
So, how can those who find Halloween difficult move through this time of year in a way that feels healing, rather than harmful? Here are a few strategies that might help:
Acknowledge Your Boundaries
It's okay to say no. You don’t have to join in on every Halloween party, haunted house, or trick-or-treat outing. If certain environments or events feel unsafe, honor that feeling. Set limits that protect your mental health. Sometimes healing starts with simply allowing yourself to opt out without guilt.
Create Your Own Traditions
Instead of participating in typical Halloween events, consider creating your own safe and comforting traditions. You might watch a favorite movie, enjoy a cozy night with friends, or take a mindful walk under the changing autumn leaves. The season can still be appreciated in ways that feel grounding, not overwhelming.
Practice Grounding Techniques
If you find yourself feeling triggered by Halloween imagery or events, grounding exercises can help. Deep breathing, focusing on your senses, or holding onto a comforting object can help you stay connected to the present moment. Remember, you are safe now, even if past fears or memories are being stirred.
Talk About It
If you're feeling isolated, misunderstood, or overwhelmed by the season, reaching out to someone can help. Sharing your feelings with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can provide relief. You don’t have to carry the burden of fear or anxiety alone. At Artist Eye Counseling, we believe that talking through these experiences is a step toward healing.
Use Creativity as Expression
One of the most powerful ways to process complex emotions is through creativity. Whether you paint, write, make music, or engage in another art form, expressing your feelings through creative outlets can be a therapeutic way to cope with the season. At Artist Eye Counseling, we emphasize the healing power of art, especially for those who may not yet have words for their emotions.
Embracing Halloween on Your Terms
Ultimately, Halloween doesn’t have to be about fear, discomfort, or anxiety. It can be an opportunity for self-reflection, creativity, and healing. If this season is difficult for you, know that you’re not alone. Your feelings are valid, and there are ways to navigate this time with compassion for yourself.
Whether you embrace the spooky fun of Halloween or choose to sit it out entirely, what's most important is that you honor your needs. Healing doesn’t follow one path—it’s about finding what works best for you in each moment.
If you need support in navigating this season or any other time of the year, Artist Eye Counseling is here to help. Together, we can explore what healing looks like for you and create a safe space for your journey.
For more resources on PTSD, trauma, or managing anxiety during seasonal changes, feel free to explore more on our website or reach out directly for support.
References:
National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder."
Sedgewick, F., et al. "Masking and Neurodivergence: A Review.